OK,
thank you for the additional information. You are NOT paranoid and you certainly did the right thing asking for information and help.
Everything I write from now is to be taken with a grain of salt because I'm trying to put together the various pieces and they don't completely fit yet. So don't just take my word but try to gather more information yourself (as you already did).
The whole thing has the typical smell of a "romance scam" or "dating scam". In case you haven't found ressources about this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating_scamhttp://www.romancescam.com/forum/portal.phpWhat you've written certainly sounds a lot like those scenarios.
That's the first part.
Now about "Kalmistern Oil Company" and how the various puzzles don't fit (or we may have a particularly stupid scammer here - probably).
The domain kalmisternoil.com was registered on April 10 of this year. I'd call this "very recently". It was also registered with "hidden registrant"; read: We don't know who is behind it. Such a hidden registration is comparatively unusual for real companies. So those two things raise my suspicions a bit but they don't automatically mean this site is fraudulent.
So I'm digging a bit deeper. So this is supposed to be a Russian company but they don't have the slightest bit of Russian on their page? Hmmmm.
I find press releases from 2010 and before (remember, the domain was registered in April 2011). So the "about this company page is"
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/section_29/section_30.htmbut reads as title "INK at a glance". Who is INK? Doesn't sound like "Kalmistern Oil Company" to me at all.
Short answer: It's "Irkutsk Oil Company".
Compare:
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/http://www.irkutskoil.com/However irkutskoil.com was registered in 2004. And here we actually have a Russian language version of it. The whole site
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/ was simply copied from
http://www.irkutskoil.com/ (which as far as I can see is legit).
So yes:
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/ is most definitely fake. This doesn't mean that there isn't a real Kalmistern Oil Company - but if there is one it is not associated with the particular website. The natural conclusion is that whoever claims to work for
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/ and uses this website to showcase his line of work is automatically a scammer.
So far it's pretty straightforward for me. Now finally to the parts that "don't fit":
"That guy" wrote:
i have allocation on all the petroleum product produce by this refinery, you have a look at their website and know more about my work.
http://www.kalmisternoil.com. > > I have been doing this for long time, i supply to end users, mostly in Asia region where my allocation/ authorization rigth covers.
However
http://www.kalmisternoil.com/presscente ... -id=66.htm reads (partly):
Recently Kalmistern Oil Company has experienced a higher-than-normal volume of verification inquiries from customers who were allegedly contacted on behalf of the Company or its subsidiary UstKutNeftegaz.
We would like to state that such contacts are not authorized by the Group and would like to reiterate that Kalmistern Oil Company is NOT producing oil refined products like diesel, kerosene and gasoline and DOES NOT have any uncontracted volumes of crude in 2011.
So our romance scammer claims to have access to the "petroleum product", but the (fake) website of the company he claims to work for says pretty much the opposite. Talk about irony...
Of course this is also the result of having copied the text straight from
http://www.irkutskoil.com/presscenter/media?id=66Anyway, I hope this has helped a bit further. In my opinion it is a typical dating/romance scam.
The bad thing about this type of scam is that the victims are sometimes really hard to convince that it really IS a scam. The scammers of course do exactly this for a living and hence know exactly how to "play" a victim. The victim on the other hand has invested a lot of emotional energy in this and this makes it often difficult to see the reality of the situation.
Good luck, and if you feel like it let us know how it turned out. You can of course also ask further questions.